My Love-Hate Relationship With Love Triangles // ft. LOTS of discussion!

Love triangles. You either love ’em or you hate ’em.

Or, you’re like me, and you’re stuck in the middle! Love triangles are one of the most common tropes in books, and there are a lot of controversial opinions on them. Since it’s almost Valentine’s Day, what better chance is there to discuss them?!


In this post, I’ll be listing the pros and cons of love triangles, and then sharing my thoughts on a few popular (read: stereotypical) love triangles in the bookish world. I anticipate lots of rambling to come in this post. 😉


Reasons Love Triangles Aren’t So Bad

There have to be good things, right? I know that love triangles can get a lot of hate and sometimes they deserve that hate. Yet there have been times when I enjoyed love triangles.

They get me to really care about the characters. I get so invested when there are love triangles involved. Suddenly, I have! to! know! who! is picked!! That keeps me reading, since I have to know what happens.

When I ship them, I am unstoppable. I’m sure all bookworms can relate. Once we ship characters, we hold tightly and fight for that ship. Once I find two people I love together, I’ll probably keep reading, no matter how much I like the book.

They can bring a lot of character development. I enjoy watching the character choosing develop as they realize more about themselves, and watching them make the choice of who to go with.

It can rip my heart apart, in the best way possible. Apparently, readers like getting their heart ripped out?? Because why else would we keep reading books?? When the character doesn’t pick who I want them to, my heart rips apart, of course. Who knows why this on the pros list.

It gives me a lot to talk about regarding the book. Love triangles open up so much discussion. There’s a lot of controversy since people are on different “teams” and overall, it’s just fun to argue for your character.


Why Love Triangles Make Me Scream in Agony

Now for the fun part. Because insulting love triangles is definitely going to be fun!!

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Girls are stronger than that. Love triangles can make the girl in the triangle look weak. It makes it seem like she needs a boy to be happy, and I don’t think that’s the case. Sometimes I’m just rooting for the girl to dump both boys.

They are overused. Sometimes I feel like if I read another love triangle, I will throw every book I own off the edge of a cliff.

It can get pretty boring. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to read a whole book where the girl is playing eenie-meenie-miney-moo (did I spell that right I have no idea) the entire time.

I feel bad for the boys (or girls). When one person is trying to pick between two other people, I honestly feel so bad for the two others. They’re usually getting treated poorly as the main character struggles to choose between them.

Sometimes it takes over the plot of the book. I hate it when the most of the book is focused only on the romantic relationship (unless it’s a romance novel). Like, I didn’t sign up for this!! I signed up for adventures!


At the end of the day, I really can’t decide if I’m for love triangles or against them. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to come to a consensus on that!

I know that they’ll always be prevalent in the books that I read, and the bookworm community will always have lots of opinions about that. Sharing what I like and dislike about them has helped me understand my thoughts about them a little better! 🙂

The more shallow and easy-going part of me loves them, because it’s entertaining and fun to take a “side.” That part of me thinks, it’s a book! it’s not that serious!

But the deeper part of me that craves meaningful books doesn’t like them, because of how they sometimes portray the choice between two people as a game. That side thinks, this doesn’t seem right.

BUT! I’m Olivia. I’m indecisive, and I can tell that I will never come to a conclusion if I really do hate or love love triangles.


My Opinions on Popular Love Triangles

Finally, I’ll be sharing some of my opinions on popular love triangles in MG/YA fiction. Then we can scream about it in the comments later. 😉



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I love the Hunger Games. (Though I haven’t seen the movies yet, only read the books.) And I just can’t talk about love triangles without mentioning this one, because it’s practically the Golden Love Triangle.

I am Team Peeta, and will always be Team Peeta, and will scream at you (I’m joking, sort of) if you Team Gale. Honestly, my opinions on this could fill up an entire post?? Maybe I’ll do that someday.


This love triangle is from the Selection series, which I read a long time ago, but still love. (Can someone please explain to me why the Selection isn’t a movie yet?!) I am ALL Team Maxon here, for reasons which I pretty much explained in this post. 😉


OKAY, so this isn’t a real love triangle, since Harry and Hermione were just close friends and never actually had any romantic feelings. But, a lot of people in the Harry Potter fandom ship them, so it’s sort of a love triangle created by the fandom??

I’m Team Ronmione, all the way.



This love triangle is from the Matched trilogy, a trilogy that seems to have a lot of differing opinions in the bookworm world. (I enjoyed the first and second book, but DNF’d the third.)

I shipped Xander and Cassia! This is one of the few times when I don’t ship the girl with the boy she meets and falls in love with, but instead with the “original” boy- the one she’s known for her whole life.


Thus this long post comes to an end. I love writing discussion posts about topics that I have a lot of opinions on, so this post was especially fun to write. 🙂 I truly hope you all enjoyed reading it!

Do you love or hate love triangles? Why? Who do you ship in the triangles I talked about? Let’s chat in the comments.


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28 thoughts on “My Love-Hate Relationship With Love Triangles // ft. LOTS of discussion!

  1. I used to be Team Gale (im sorry peetas ugly and likes the colour orange. YuCK) but!! I’m now team aro-ace KATNISS!! As in i don’t think Katniss NEEDS either of the boys!!?! I only like love triangles when they’re necessary. And Aspen was SO ANNOYING

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    • Ahh, Team Gale. *gags* But honestly sometimes I’m team Katniss too!😂She really doesn’t need either of them. I agree, Aspen was one of the most annoying book characters I’ve ever read! Thanks for your comment, Ilsa.❤️


  2. That was pretty funny, Olivia! My favorite love triangle is in A Tale of Two Cities, because it shreds my heart, as you said! I don’t know why I enjoy that, either, but I do–the best books are the ones that make me cry every time I read them! 😭=💕

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  3. The best love triangle I have ever read was a love SQUARE. 😂 The series is still being written, and so far, one character has been knocked out of the square. (6/7 books are out) I am rooting for the funny character because why choose the one with teal eyes when that character is around?? I mean really. (The author had better do the ship I want or my world will crumble before my eyes. I’VE BEEN INVESTED IN THIS SHIP SINCE BOOK 5! That was in 2016! So you can see why it not happening would be so dramatic for me. It’s been YEARS.)

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  4. ahh so relateable!! I’m in the middle too, and you basically summed up my feelings perfectly :)) (also I’m team Gale sorry haha) I’d kind of forgotten about The Selection…maybe I’ll reread it in honor of Valentines’s Day…😂 Great post!

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  5. Okay, I ship America and the prince. Ahh, I don’t remember which one that is! Also my opinion is incomplete because I didn’t read the last book. I’m Team Peeta too, but honestly, I didn’t really like either of them (SORRY)! The only thing I remember about the Matched series are the pills, oops. My opinion on love triangle: I don’t really like them, but I don’t hate them either! I do think they’re aggravating to read about. I also have never really seen or heard of one in real life, so I don’t think it’s realistic for someone to spend an entire book trying to decide either.

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    • ME TOO! That’s Maxon, haha. I’m glad to hear you’re Team Peeta- even if you don’t like either of them, he’s still the better option. (I’m not biased at all.) 😉 You make such a good point!! I’ve never seen a love triangle in real life either…

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  6. You make so many good points! I have such a love/hate relationship with love triangles. I hate how much I love them. Team Peeta all the way!! Also, I usually feel like the person they choose deserves better because the person choosing can’t even decide if they like them enough.

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  7. I dunno about love triangles… if they’re overused, they’re boring. If not, they can be good!
    I only knew two of your love triangles, but then, I’ve never read either of those books lol

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  8. This post was such an emotional roller coaster! I opened it thinking “I HATE love triangles,” but your pros were pretty good and got me thinking “Ok, sometimes they’re pretty good.” And then you went into the cons list and I was back to hating them with a passion!

    I generally hate love triangles, but you did make some good points about the pros. I think the main problem is that too often the love triangles are really poorly written, so it’s hard to give a good one a chance.

    I haven’t read all of the books you referenced at the end, but I’m totally with you on Team Peeta! I didn’t think Katniss necessarily needed a guy, but I was never a huge Gale fan, and Peeta is just too adorable. (Also, I know I’ve said I know those books so well that I have no desire to read them anytime soon…but this post is kind of making me want to reread them again!)

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    • Haha, love triangles are an emotional rollercoaster in general. I don’t think I’ll ever come to a consensus on if I love or hate them. 😉

      That’s so true! And a lot of the time the girl doesn’t even really need a guy, so the love triangle seems kind of pointless and unrealistic.

      Yay, Team Peeta! He’s definitely the better option over Gale…

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      • Let’s just say I have no desire to pick up that anthology of love triangle short stories…I don’t like them enough to make it through a book that’s just about love triangles!

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